Emotions are not light switches. You cannot simply turn them on or off just because you (or somebody) would like to.

Being told (or telling others) to calm down, cheer up, or get over it is dismissive and unhelpful. There is no direct mechanism for selecting your emotions.

The biggest problem is that this type of command is outcome based - become x new emotion now. But without a process for changing your emotions you may do more harm to your current emotional state.

I'm sharing with you that process here.

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