Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), joins Dr. @RickHanson and me to explore how insights from attachment theory can transform our relationships. We discuss how attachment theory provides a map for understanding relationships, the challenges of making skills learned in therapy stick, and the role of vulnerability in creating authentic and fulfilling relationships. In this episode you'll learn how to use insights from attachment theory and EFT to create secure and emotionally healthy relationships.

Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
1:50 Why Sue created Emotionally-Focused Therapy
9:00 Relationships as bonds not bargains
12:35 The amygdala and getting relationship skills to stick
17:15 What it feels like to be in a bonding conversation
25:50 The dance of relationship, validating vulnerabilities, and “finding the raw spot”
30:30 Having good modeling of a bonding conversation
31:20 Changing the way you relate to yourself
36:10 Where EFT is useful vs. Internal Family Systems
38:35 “The Amygdala Whisperer”
40:40 Relating with the inherent core of every being, and naming helplessness
45:40 Communicating how much you care about and value others
51:40 Individualism, and getting comfortable with vulnerability
59:05 Recap

About our Guest: Dr. Sue Johnson is a clinical psychologist, researcher, professor, and the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a widely used and respected approach to couples therapy. She is considered one of the foremost experts in the field of attachment, and has received numerous awards for her contributions to the field of psychotherapy. Dr. Johnson is also the author of seven books, including the best-selling Hold Me Tight.

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