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Hello everyone, and welcome back to our channel. It's become increasingly apparent that a significant number of individuals are experiencing considerable challenges and stress in their emotional and interpersonal lives. This often stems from encountering someone who seems overly eager to exert control over them. It strikes me as the epitome of arrogance, and quite frankly, a sheer lack of wisdom, for one person to believe it's their prerogative to dictate another's existence, proceeding to dominate and control them. This approach is fundamentally at odds with the principles of healthy living.

While it's perfectly acceptable, and indeed beneficial, for us to offer feedback and suggestions to one another, discussing what works and what doesn't in a constructive manner, this should be seen as part of establishing healthy boundaries. However, the issue arises when certain individuals believe they have the authority to impose a specific mold for others to fit into, insisting on adherence to their prescribed way of life.

Early in my journey, I coined a term to describe how these individuals communicate their desire for control: "imperative thinking" or "imperative communication." This mode of communication is characterized by directives such as "You have to," "You must," "You should," "You're supposed to," "You better," "You can't," "You've got to." These phrases are repeatedly used, potentially trapping you in a cycle of either rebutting in kind or internalizing this manner of thinking. This essentially signals one person's intent to control another.

Reflecting on the emotional turmoil this causes—be it anxiety, depression, anger, guilt, or a combination thereof—it's clear this is not a healthy or sustainable way to live. Consider for a moment the liberation that could come from deciding, "I will no longer allow this." The notion that narcissists, with their inflated sense of entitlement and self-importance, can control you might persist in their minds, but you have the power to reject their control. Imagine the profound change if you were to make that declaration, whether verbally or through your actions. While it's unlikely that such a stance would be met with praise or encouragement from a narcissist, instead possibly drawing criticism or accusations of rebellion, non-conformity, or ingratitude, it fundamentally represents a desire for autonomy. Declaring your wish for freedom, to live guided by common sense and peace, and to reject undue control, is a powerful and valid assertion. Is striving for such independence and self-guidance really so unreasonable?

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