When purity culture is front and center in a strict religious organization, youth are blamed for being preyed on by adults. It creates an unsafe environment for those who don’t understand boundaries, consent, grooming, or have any s*x education at all to even have proper vocabulary for what might be happening to them. Kathy Durbin explains this h*rmful culture and how she was ultimately a survivor of it. She also discusses her year long sentence in an IFB all girl’s home where extreme p*nishments were at times f*tal.

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Chapter Marks

00:00:00 Intro
00:03:28 The rules of the IFB (Independent Fundamental Baptists)
00:07:22 Does the IFB have a prophet?
00:11:12 TW: SA
00:12:50 Patterns and blaming women
00:19:00 "Give all your money to God"
00:22:35 Did Kathy recognize she was growing up differently than other youth?
00:25:57 The slow indoctrination of becoming IFB at 11
00:30:04 Expectations on young women in the IFB
00:36:10 IFB goes to the extreme with being fear driven
00:37:53 Why Kathy got sent to an IFB boarding school
00:42:59 TW: SA
00:44:13 After her exposing "intake" into the girl's school- assigned a "buddy"
00:45:02 TW: mentions of attempted s*ic*de
00:45:29 TW: F*tality- Forced manual labor
00:50:23 Forced to write letters that they would censor
00:54:38 What happened when Kathy finally left the girl's home
01:01:31 The IFB started their own school where Kathy was targeted
01:05:09 Kathy's father figure turned predatory
01:06:54 TW: indecent exposure to a minor & r*pe
01:10:05 Kathy's father figure turned pr*datory
01:06:54 TW: indecent exposure to a minor & r*pe
01:10:05 The youth pastor kept her around- took her to a pastor school
01:11:19 TW: r*pe
01:12:01 Called in by the head pastor Goddard
01:15:38 Kathy was blamed and shamed for what happened to her
01:19:51 No matter the age, girls and women are always blamed for SA
01:21:04 Linda, Listen
01:22:01 What the next episode holds
01:33:51 Kathy was blamed and shamed for what happened to her

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