You know some of the more obvious signs of a toxic relationship. AND, there are more that are sneaky, manipulative, and cause you to second-guess yourself and how you're seeing things.

Occasional toxic moments? Or sustained patterns of toxicity? How many of these 40 behaviors are you experiencing? These are the ones to identify today so you can take positive action!

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- My personal definition of a toxic relationship
- Why healthy people often give toxic people too much understanding, compassion, and "wiggle room."
- Passive-aggressive behaviors (Read my book on Amazon, Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How to Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game https://amzn.to/2tM0e3h)
- 40 behaviors that create toxic relationships
- Ways to understand issues you may not have had your finger on before now
- Understanding the nature of a toxic relationship to make decisions about your future.

00:46 Look at good side, reflect on self.
06:06 "Must-haves: Equality, reciprocity, mutuality."
06:31 Covert Narcissists
06:58 Overt Narcissists
13:27 Toxicity: selfishness and rejection are signs.
17:10 Marginalization, isolation, and toxic abuse discussed briefly.
21:16 Coercive control is abusive and toxic.
27:40 Dismissive, toxic relationships lack support and empathy.
37:26 Unaccountable behavior leads to broken trust.
39:23 Toxic people lack predictability, safety, approval.
47:26 Vulnerability can be weaponized by hijackles.
52:46 Caring for sick parents, coping with no contact.
58:19 Cut ties with toxic people for safety.
59:53 Dealing with flattery & manipulation: set boundaries.

Are you in a toxic relationship?
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The difference between a person having a toxic moment, and a person who has many toxic traits is that the healthier person will acknowledge, take responsibility for, and apologize after behaving poorly. A #Hijackal--a relentlessly difficult, often narcissistic one--will not be accountable or responsible. They are even likely to blame their poor behavior on you!

Also, if you had a toxic parent, you'll be more susceptible to finding a toxic partner acceptable. That's really something to watch for.

* * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.

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I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane.

No worries about where in the world you live. I work through private, secure video conferencing. So, we can certainly work together to figure a few things out.

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Are you looking for relief from the pain, confusion and drama of toxic relationships?
You can reclaim your personal power. Keep watching my videos on YouTube to find strategies for changing your relationship dynamics..

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