In episode, "42: Break Avoidant Sexual Behaviors and Shift To Pleasure," of the "All Things Love and Intimacy Podcast," with Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist, she discusses the sexual standoff many long-term couples find themselves in and give practical tips as how to develop sexual and emotional intimacy. Does one of you want to have sex and the other not want to have sex? Have you forgotten how to be sex and your erotic self? Feeling stuck in the companionship mode? Feeling stuck in the companionship mode? Have you found yourself feeling disconnected from your erotic self? Do you feel trapped in a companionship mode within your relationship, longing for deeper intimacy but unsure how to reignite the flame? In your marriage, you may be stuck in a sexually avoidance cycle and feeling trapped, confused, angry, and lonely. Perhaps, you are caught up parenting, dealing with health issues, loss, mental health issues, working long hours, studying a new academic course, and putting more attention into other areas than into your marriage and sex life. Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist, speaks to and explains the concept of your relationship garden that you both are co-creating when building your emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy. This episode talks about how to shift from sexual avoidance, fear, insecurity, shame, and guilt into sexual pleasure and create more pleasure-oriented sexual activities. Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist, discusses reasons as to why couples get stuck in a sexually avoidant cycle and get stuck in a sexual standoff. For one, one or both of you may have been raised in a strict, conservative, Christian, and religious home with fear-based and shame-based messages around sex. This upbringing can lead females to develop negative beliefs such as, give, give, give, don't to be too much, don't be a burden, and females develop these beliefs at the cost of forfeiting their own sexual pleasure. Sex then becomes part of the to-do list and an obligation rather than pleasure-focused, causes sexual avoidance. As well, pornography overuse can lead to performance-oriented sex, cycles of sexual avoidance and self-isolation.
This episode offers valuable insights and practical strategies for breaking free from the cycle of sexual avoidance and rediscovering the amazing joy of intimacy.
Join us as Katie Ziskind, sex and intimacy specialist, unpacks the dynamics of sexual avoidance within marriages, offering guidance on how to navigate these challenging waters with empathy and understanding.
Whether you're feeling confused, lonely, or simply unsure how to bridge the gap between your sexual desires and your partner's, this episode provides a roadmap for fostering open communication, cultivating desire, and reclaiming pleasure within your relationship. Tune in as we explore the transformative power of embracing pleasure and breaking free from the confines of sexual avoidance, in a way that is gentle, emotionally in tune, and kind. Katie Ziskind discusses ways to speak up, have a voice, and bring more pleasure into your sexual experiences.
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